I know every generation before us had it rougher than we do. You know, they had to walk 5 miles in the snow uphill both ways to school and all that jazz, but I’m just going to say it – it’s STILL tough being a dad! Maybe I don’t have to grind it out for 12 hours a day in the coal mines like my grandfather and great-grandfather did, but my life isn’t so easy either. These days, I don’t think any dad’s is (any dad who truly wants and tries to BE a dad, that is).
Have you read the newspaper lately? Watched any TV? Fathers are the most maligned group on the planet! It seems like the only kind of dad who gets any modicum of credit in today’s society is the one who pays his child support on time, every week, and otherwise stays handily out of the picture so the mother can raise the kids properly. In divorce situations, Dads have virtually no rights in the courts regarding their children. The most popular ‘dads’ on TV are bumbling idiots like Ray Romano, Al Bundy, and Homer Simpson. We are an afterthought, a necessary evil to be disposed of at the first opportunity and certainly not to be in any way honored or revered. All this noted, it’s a miracle that there even is a ‘Father’s Day’ at all! For now…
A recent Huggies commercial is par for the course, supposedly putting their diapers to the “toughest test imaginable: dads, alone with their babies, in one house, for five days.” (So, WHY exactly would that be the ‘toughest test imaginable??’) Another Huggies commercial portrayed a group of dads watching a game through ‘double overtime,’ not changing their babies’ diaper once. Really, who would DO that?? Apparently the perception is that most dads would, and that’s a problem. (This post was written in 2012. Interestingly, I wasn’t the only one upset by the series. Since then Huggies has apologized and changed their commercial… seems like public pressure can do some good after all!)
It gets worse. Today’s economy makes it difficult and sometimes impossible for most families to make it on one income. Traditional, historical family roles have been turned upside down as fathers are often no longer able to support their families with their full time job, and mothers are no longer able to rear their children and take care of the home full time. Life became more chaotic and, ultimately, it’s the children who suffer the most.
Most dads today, competent or not, get little or no respect from their wives, their children, or society in general. I could go on and on with this, but ultimately this all begs the question – why?
“As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them.” Isaiah 3:12
The patriarchal Christian society has been under assault for 100 years. It was far from perfect, but I think it would be difficult for any rational person to argue that the character it once instilled in children is any better today, in an age where the law, which once stood firm behind fathers in their Biblical role as leader and protector of the home, now stands against the principles of traditional patriarchal home and hearth, marriage and family. Now, quite literally, women and children rule while men are little more than a laughing stock.
Long ago, the social engineers knew that in order to wreck the culture, the civilization, they would have to wreck its building block, the family – and in order to do that they chipped away at the top, the father, first. They knew that if they were successful in this, the rest would fall. They have continued to whittle away at the edifices that built our once great civilization, a little at a time, until now we have very little left, if anything at all. We are a hollow shell of what we once were.
“…but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15
As anyone who knows us or reads this blog regularly knows, we don’t ‘roll’ quite the way most everyone else does. You shouldn’t either. I love being a father. In all the world, there is no sweeter word than ‘Daddy’ when my kids call for me. I love being their protector, their role model, their leader. I’m thankful for the Godly legacy and role model my father was to me. I couldn’t ask for a better helpmeet and encourager and mother to my kids than my wife. She is that rare someone who understands the importance of fatherhood in raising Godly children. Of course they need her, but they need me too. Fatherhood is under fire, and it’s up to us real fathers to take it back and put it in its rightful place, the place where God intended it to be.
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